A New Excuse Not to Love My Neighbor

In my continual quest to find an exception clause or asterisk to Christ’s Second Greatest Command, I have a new excuse I’m sure the Lord has never heard before:

“My neighborhood is a ghost town.”

I live on a guest ranch in Colorado where the cabins are named for abandoned  ghost towns. We have a handful of permanent residents, but hundreds of different families shuffle through the ranch throughout the year. Just up the road is one of the most well-preserved ghost towns in Colorado, St. Elmo. Many of the homes nearby are used as short-term vacation rentals that sit empty much of the time.

Maybe your neighborhood feels like a ghost town, too? Glimpses of strangers behind shuttered windows. Vacant driveways, creaking swing sets, silent streets. I’ve lived in places with verifiable real people living in every home that still felt deserted, empty… and lonely.

Sometimes I find myself feeling closed off and isolated in ways that don’t have anything to do with my remote mountain cabin, and I miss neighboring.

Luckily, I know just how to fix that.

Start a Neighborhood Café!

It is simple to start a Neighborhood Cafe:

  1. Host an Open House for your neighbors
  2. Invite them back for Bible study

I created an INVITATION to an Open House followed by a Bible study. This is where I taught (for the 3rd time!) the material that became my new book, Can I Borrow a Cup of Hope? How to Find Faith for Hard Times in 1 Peter. It’s perfect for sharing in a small group of friends.

Check out the Café highlight on my Instagram to see my Neighborhood Café!

Because this is a question you dear readers ask all the time, here’s how to I transition from Open House to Bible Study:

Please come meet our neighbors at an open house on Friday, September 24, from 9-10:30 am. No one will try to sell you anything, I promise. You’re also invited to come back for Bible study every Friday morning in October (please come to the Open House even if that’s not your cup of tea!).

I made a MAP of the local roads to keep track of who I’ve invited, and asked neighbors I do know for ideas on who to ask. Rural folks have to draw bigger circles to love their neighbor – I can see my friend Bobbi’s house “across the street” but to knock on her door would be a challenging hike, and my “neighbor” Elsa’s farm is a twisty ten-minute drive away!

How big is your circle?
How many neighbors do you know?
Let us know in the comments!


If I think about it too long, I’m sure I can come up with a dozen new excuses…

Yes, I’m nervous.
No, I don’t have time.
Yes, my dog barks misbehaves.
No, my house isn’t perfect.


Would you like to start a Neighborhood Café with me? Everything you need to get started is available for free. I’ll be right there with you, and you can listen in on my personal pep talks and share your own great ideas. You don’t have to launch a big-deal Bible Study. You can simply have coffee. You can work on a craft. You can share a short devotion from your favorite author. The point is to set aside time and space to make friends with your neighbors.

Don’t spend too much time thinking about how to love your neighbor, or you’ll come up with new excuses, too. Drop your best excuse in the comments, and we’ll overcome them together.


  1. Laura Johnson

    Nice! Love how applicable this is 😊

    • Amy Lively

      Thank you! I’m trying to apply it every day.

  2. Wendy @ One Exceptional Life

    What a great idea. After reading about missionary living right in our own neighborhood, meeting my neighbors has been on my heart. I just wasn’t sure how to go about it. My question is, how do you invite them? I look forward to digging into your resources. Thank you.

    • Amy Lively

      Hi, Wendy! I invite them personally as much as possible, literally knocking on each door and saying hello. Most people are very friendly, even if they’re not interested! Sometimes I leave the invitation tucked inside the screen door or newspaper box (you’re not supposed to place anything in a US Mail box). There’s a free invitation to download here! >> http://www.amylively.com/cafe


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